Picture this: Two people, moving in the opposite directions on the same road happen to bump into each other and start with the formalities. They are absolutely not related to each other but for the fact that they had been classmates in college twenty years ago. “Hey, how have you been? What are you doing now?” “I am fine. I am working in……. What about you?” “I am working in ……” “I did not expect to meet you like this.” “Me too.” “See you around then” “Yup! Good bye!” As they slowly drift apart, both of them can’t help but wonder, “What is his freakin’ name?”I’m pretty sure this will happen to me. After having been in classroom with 110 students for over three years now, there are at least 60 of them with who I have not had a ‘decent’ conversation with for over a minute. It is not that I am an introvert or they are introverts. Almost every person I know in my college agrees with me. Despite many students in a class, out social interaction is highly limited. All of us tend to form groups and our own circle of friends and don’t venture beyond that.
The generation which I am proudly a part of is one which thinks it not courteous not ask for a treat on ones birthday, and not snatching a bag of chips from a good friend is sign of a person not having his priorities right. All of this does paint a rose tinted picture of a close-knit generation. At the same time, one has to remember that the geeks we are, we also use orkut to ask our neighbour if they are going to mess. Tech Savvy or not, we all do crave for a much closer correspondence. For instance, be it vicarious, we mail each other “hey, listen” and not “hey, read this”.
In my first year in college, three of us (other freshers) were put in a room in our hostels. All of us wanted our privacy and we did not like this idea initially. To be honest, life seemed a lot more fun those days. There were no computers in our rooms as there were just too many people in there. Internet wasn’t provided in our rooms then. When 2nd year came, almost all of us had computers and progressively out social interaction got confined to the hostel mess.
Even orkut really can’t come to rescue. I find ample number of scraps that go, “What a relief from Chennai’s hot climate, no?” If you ask me, talking about weather is indirectly saying, “We are left with nothing else to talk about buddy. I have given up trying to think about things to talk about. But …I don’t want to give up talking altogether.” I honestly hope I don’t resort to weather predictions and global warming to bridge the communication gap.
By the end of my third year, a mega mess was built for all hostels to dine in a single place. As far as I have seen, this too hasn’t helped in building a good interaction. Somehow, it in contrary to our disposition to smile or even acknowledge the presence of the person whom you are sharing a dining table with. Among some reasons given to start the mega mess, or Himalaya as it is called, two were to increase inter-hostel interaction and reduce rivalry after certain incidents in inter-hostel competition. Unfortunately, the former is not happening and I’m not sure about the latter.
The best conversations I have had with my class-mates have been in lab hours. Be it, dumb charades in Milling and Shaping workshop or endless debates on whose performance is worse in the tests. Being is fourth year now, we have no labs and all of us are engrossed, if I may use the word, in our rooms with our computers and the B-Tech Projects.
Still, we all do, desperately, if may add, to fit in. There are those nine point “the” ones who join orkut’s ‘iitm give-up junta’ community. If there is one non existent quality in us that conquers all, it is humility. I don’t know why, it is a weakness in us to confess that we have done well in tests. I really don’t know what to believe when my friends’ gtalk status message says “f***ed up” and they end up getting one of the highest scores. There are others who constantly use swears to “express” themselves. Those who think that’s cool, I have one piece of advice. When you call someone, please don’t couple ‘b***nc**d’ and ’saala’.
[PS: I started the post before the notice of reflections organising a GD tonite on "Social Interaction in IITM" was up on the notice board]
[PPS Don't try to fit in and say, "you have already started working on project, I haven't even started"]